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Freedom Keys – Relationship With God – What Does It Look Like?


Jun 13


Key on a key ringIn previous “Freedom Keys” blogs, we have learned about God, who He is and His character.  We also have seen how [tweet_dis]God pursues us and desires a deep intimate relationship with us.[/tweet_dis] There is so much more to know and experience with God. Our journey with Him is truly an amazing adventure!

God created us with what I will refer to as an “intimacy hole.”  We are made for intimacy, a deep personal relationship with Him. There is a hunger in us for this need to be filled. It is a longing for a loving relationship. This need for intimacy is not to be ignored. But this longing can only be fulfilled in through a very personal, on-going, moment-by-moment relationship with God, our Creator. This inner longing is meant to draw us close to Him.  He loves and pursues us; our response is to open our heart and life to Him.

Square peg in a round hole does not fit

Instead of allowing God to fulfill this longing for intimacy, which is what He intended, we turn to things of the world  such as drugs, alcohol, sex, food, work, busyness or many other substitutes. This is like trying to put a square peg in a round hole.  It will never fit.

We often turn to human relationships to fill the “intimacy hole.” God has also created us with a need for healthy human relationships. But when human relationships take the place that only God can fill, we find ourselves empty, disillusioned and unsatisfied. Nothing but an authentic relationship with our Creator will ever satisfy the deepest longing in our heart.

Some people may initially come to relationship with Him hesitantly, while others may come decisively. Whatever the case, as we come to know Him and His character, we experience His loving presence, and begin to develop a personal testimony of trust in Him. Our relationship with Him becomes stronger the more we know Him. This process is involved in all healthy relationships, whether with other people or with God. Our trust level deepens as we grow in relationship.

What does an intimate relationship with God look like? 

We sometimes say of good friends, that we are “doing life together.” We share our hearts openly, we laugh and cry together, and we are willing to let that person close to our hearts. We are willing to communicate honestly, talking and listening to them. We go places together and enjoy each other’s company. We are also committed to those people. We don’t run away at the first sign of trouble or misunderstanding. We follow through with our commitment and work through conflicts together. 

God wants to be our best friend. He desires to be a part of every moment of our day. He wants us to share everything in our lives with Him. That is only the beginning of what an intimate relationship with God looks like. 

There are limitations to our human relationships. Other people are not always available. As much as someone may love you, they are not perfect and will, at times, fail you.  But God will never fail you. He is always present and available. He sees the big picture and knows what you need most. He will give you strength (Psalm 28:7) when you need it. He will give you wisdom when you ask (James 1:5), and He has promised to provide a way of escape when you face temptation (1 Corinthians 10:13).   [tweet_dis]God can be trusted and He is faithful![/tweet_dis]

We come from a multitude of backgrounds, misconceptions and teachings.  Some believe that in order to approach God, we must quietly speak to Him with our head bowed and eyes closed. Some believe we can only talk to Him in a church building. Some believe God must be saved for only the “big” issues of life and is not to be bothered with everyday decisions. Some even believe that God “gave us a brain so we can solve our own problems.” Others believe God is more like Santa Claus who exists somewhere in the sky to drop an occasional gift or blessing down from Heaven in order to make us happy.

But God is not a myth or a figment of someone’s mind. God is real and alive! He is the Almighty Creator and to be respected. He does want an ongoing, intimate and personal relationship with you.  And He has a good plan for your life (Jeremiah 29:11). His way may not be the easiest path in life,  but it will be the best path for you. He wants to build His character in you. God works in our lives for the long term not the immediate and instant. He wants you to be joyful and fulfilled rather than happy for the moment. He will answer your prayers for His immediate intervention. However, God works out of relationship in our life and for our eternal good so the answer may not always look like what we may expect.

You can tell God anything and it will not change His love for you. You have not done anything that He won’t forgive when you come to Him and ask.  You might think “How can I tell God THAT?” You can tell Him because He already knows your struggles. He knows everything about you (Psalm 139).  He knows you better than you know yourself and He invites you to come and talk with Him (Isaiah 1:18). So you can only gain, never lose, when you’re honest with God and when you invite Him to help you in your challenging situations or temptations. 

He is waiting for you to ask for His help.  He will not force Himself on you, but He desires to be the One you talk to when you are troubled, the One you cry out to when you are hurting, and the One you depend on when things are tough. He wants to laugh with you, sing with you and rejoice with you!  He wants to share your troubles and your challenges and all the moments in between.

In my own journey with God, I finally realized that I had limited Him to my preconceived ideas. I thought He was only willing to hear me when I was in church or doing some “spiritual activities.” I didn’t understand who God truly was or how deeply He desired relationship with me. When I laid aside my false ideas and began to involve God in every part of every moment of my day that is when my life changed.   

Now, when I am lonely, I tell Him. When I am happy, I share the joy with Him. When I am sad, I cry in His presence.  When I face temptation, I cry out for Him to help me. I tell Him how I am being tempted and ask Him for the strength, wisdom and creativity to help me find the way of escape (1 Corinthians 10:13).   I don’t hold back, I tell Him what I long for. I share my deepest secrets, fears and my greatest joys with Him. I don’t wait for a designated time with Him, but in the moment, I “do life” with Him.  And He “does life” with me. He answers me. He gives me what I need. I feel His presence. We enjoy intimacy together, that deep personal knowing and being known, loving and being loved (Romans 8:37-39). There are times when I am simply silent and sit in awe of Him and times where I delight in being in His presence.

He is not a respecter of persons.  As he loves and helps me, He desires to help you. He will give you strength and will lead you out of addiction and into freedom. In the critical moments of temptation and choices He desires your honesty. Ask Him to help you and then accept His help. If we invite Him into our lives and are willing to accept His love and His powerful presence, He will come, and help us to be free.   

Relationship with God is a journey.  It is a growing process.  It has a beginning here on earth as we invite Him into our lives, but our relationship with Him will be with us throughout eternity.

Let this season of your life, on your journey to freedom, be one of building a close, intimate relationship with God. Invite Him to share life with you. Honor Him by sharing your life with Him and communicating with Him the deepest desires of your heart.  Let Him fill the “intimacy hole” in your life with an authentic relationship with Himself.

[tweet_dis]Authentic Intimacy with God is a perfect fit for the longings in our heart.[/tweet_dis]  It truly satisfies.

Action Steps:  Consider these questions:

What are some preconceived ideas you have about God that you might need to lay aside? 

What are some new truths you are learning about God and His character?

Consider what kind of relationship He desires with you? 

Consider if you are willing to have a relationship with Him.

If so, how can you start to develop that kind of close intimate relationship with God? 

Are there substitutes you have turned to instead of building a relationship with God?

Scripture:  “Blessed is the one whose transgressions are forgiven, whose sins are covered. Blessed is the one whose sin the Lord does not count against them and in whose spirit is no deceit. Then I acknowledged my sin to you and did not cover up my iniquity. I said, “I will confess my transgressions to the Lord.” And you forgave the guilt of my sin. When I kept silent, my bones wasted away through my groaning all day long. For day and night your hand was heavy on me;

my strength was sapped as in the heat of summer. Then I acknowledged my sin to you and did not cover up my iniquity. I said, “I will confess my transgressions to the Lord.” And you forgave the guilt of my sin. Therefore let all the faithful pray to you while you may be found; surely the rising of the mighty waters will not reach them. You are my hiding place; you will protect me from trouble and surround me with songs of deliverance. I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you with my loving eye on you. Do not be like the horse or the mule, which have no understanding but must be controlled by bit and bridle or they will not come to you. Many are the woes of the wicked, but the Lord’s unfailing love surrounds the one who trusts in him. Rejoice in the Lord and be glad, you righteous; sing, all you who are upright in heart!”  Psalm 32

A Prayer:  God, I am responding to your invitation of love. I say yes to you. Thank You for loving me, for hearing me and for wanting to be in my life. I want to know You. I want to experience new life with You. I desire for You to fill the longings in my heart. I ask You to teach me how to enter into this new life with You. Come and enter in to every part of my life, every moment of my day. Help me to be aware of your presence. In Jesus’ name I pray, amen.

(I encourage you to talk to Him in your own words.  He loves you and desires to hear what is in your heart.)

Previous blogs on relationship with God

Freedom Keys – Relationship With God, Who Is He? 

Freedom Keys – Relationship With God, His Character

God’s Pursuit of Us 

Dancing With Him

Encounter With Jesus





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