Honesty is at the core of any successful journey from addiction to freedom and is essential to remaining in that freedom.
Honesty must begin with ourselves, in our own hearts. We cannot be honest with anyone else, including God, if we are not honest with ourselves. That is self-deception and denial.
Honesty means taking a look at the reality of where you are, realizing and admitting you are an addict. Many addicts do not want to admit the depth of their problem. I didn’t either. But until I admitted that I was an addict, I was not able to get free. Without being truthful about the depth of your problem, you will not be willing to go to the necessary lengths it takes to gain freedom.
Honesty is a major key to freedom. It unlocks the door to reality and receiving truth, rather than remaining in a life hidden in darkness and deception. Without honesty, real relationships cannot exist. This includes all your relationships: with yourself, with God and with others. Instead, you will spend your time trying to fool everyone, including yourself.
Steve Arterburn of New Life Ministries has said “Denial is a lie that keeps us in slavery. It’s only when we become brutally honest about our bondage that there’s any chance for freedom.”
A lifestyle of honesty builds self-esteem rather than degrading your true worth. Honesty helps you look in the mirror and know that you are being truthful with yourself. That is a good feeling! That is actually the first step to freedom. The scriptures tell us that when we know the truth, the truth will set us free (John 8:32). Freedom begins with admitting the truth to yourself. Only when you name the problem can you do something about it. That is the starting place on this freedom journey.
Honesty is not a one-time event. It is a lifestyle that we learn to abide in.
Action Step: Do a self-check: Where are you? How serious is your problem? Be honest with yourself. Go to the following link and read some of the key elements of addiction. I encourage you to take the self-test at the following link. The test will help you to have an honest view of your situation. It is completely private. Only you will know the results of the test. These elements of addiction and this test are directed toward sex addiction. However, many of the same elements exist in all addictions. So if your issue is a struggle other than sex addiction, adjust the wording to fit your personal challenge.
Scripture: Psalms 139:23,24 says, “Search me, O God, and know my heart; Try me and know my anxious thoughts; And see if there be any hurtful way in me, And lead me in the everlasting way.” (NASB)
A Prayer: Dear God, I realize I have not been honest with myself, with you or with other people. I see that I have either intentionally or unintentionally been living in deception and lies. I come to You, and I ask You for forgiveness for my sin of lies and deception. I ask You to forgive me and help me to change. Thank you that you say that when I confess my sins, you are faithful to forgive me and to cleanse me from all my unrighteousness (1 John 1:8). Give me the courage and the strength to change. Thank you for hearing me and forgiving me. In the name of Jesus I pray, amen.
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