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Tending Your Life-Giving Friendships Georgia Shaffer, Part 3


Jul 15



Once again we are privileged to have Georgia Shaffer’s permission to post some quotes from her book “Avoiding the 12 Relationship Mistakes Women Make”.  Georgia is a certified life coach and a professional counselor with a wealth of knowledge and experience to share with as we discover God’s truth about relationships through this journey of Mission: Intimacy.

This week’s quotes are focused on how we can tend our life-giving friendships. In the terminology we have been using thus far in Mission: Intimacy, these are some “opportunities we have to grow in intimacy” in our friendships.


Be Accepting

“Understand the risk someone takes when they reveal a part of themselves they don’t normally show or want others to see.  Instead of automatically judging them, be someone who is worthy of their trust. Think about how you would feel if you were the person who was sharing a secret or a difficulty.”

Be Encouraging

“Weigh your words carefully with your friends.  Consider whether what you are about to say will be affirming or discouraging to that person. While negative people’s words stab our souls, we can use our words to lift the spirits of others.

“Worry weighs us down; a cheerful word picks us up” (Proverbs 12:25 MSG).

“Some people make cutting remarks, but the words of the wise bring healing” (Proverbs 12: 18 NLT)

“Kind words are like honey—sweet to the soul and healthy for the body” (Proverbs 16:24 NLT).

“Your friends will face difficult and challenging issues at one time or another.  Whether they get sick, lose a job, go through a divorce, or experience the death of someone they love, they will need your encouragement. “Friends love through all kinds of weather. . .” (Proverbs 17:17 MSG).”

Be Willing to Listen

“If you have ever had the undivided attention of someone who wasn’t distracted, then you know what a gift that is.  When you can hear not only their words, but the emotions underneath their words without feeling the need to fix them, it is a powerful experience.”

“I’ve only discussed three of the traits of friends.  In addition to being accepting, encouraging and listen to those in your inner circle, characteristics such forgiving, comforting, honest, and being nonjudgmental are also important.”

I greatly appreciate Georgia Shaffer giving Freedom Connection permission to use these quotes from her book “Avoiding the 12 Relationship Mistakes Women Make”.  I encourage you to consider reading this book in its entirety in order to gain more insights into friendship. It is listed in the Mission: Intimacy Toolbox along with other resources that will help shed light on God’s design for relationships. Also, check out Georgia’s website for some great resources!

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